Anyway, for people who have a vested interest in these events, there's this thing:
"So what happened??"
Back on August 26, Lom made a statement in the #politics chat that got eaten by the LinesBot for indecent language. This sparked a discussion in the area about the bots and the profanity filter, which quickly became a joking quest between Nentsia and Lom to try and "break" the bot with excessive profanity. Most attempts were eaten, prompting attempts to bypass the filter with creative solutions, alternate spellings and etc.
Staff got involved when the two attempted the big bad N-word. The log shows two attempts until they succeeded in breaking the bot; these were expunged. Other attempts of other words remain in the chat. Nentsia is on record as having apologized practically immediately in private to mods (I believe it was Flo), accepting that use of the N-word crossed a line. Lom did not, and decided to argue about the matter being just a joke when confronted; this got brought back to all the admins, and we discussed it.
According to the chat, three of the admins voted for a ban, though they express explicit bias due to constant aggravations with past and continuing behaviors. Hahk expressed an inability to continue defending Lom, both he and Lines coming out in favor. For my part, I never gave a response at this time; I had been in the same boat as Hahk, constantly defending Lom against the consequences of his own actions to the point that, on 11 Dec. 2017, I stated bluntly to him:
"I've spent too long defending your behavior behind your back and I'm kinda done now"
Even still, I've been fine with the guy since then, fine with our disagreements (of which there are many), and enjoy my time around him. I still have defended Lom in the interest of fairness in following the guidelines for warning and bans that I had written, and I was preparing to do so again. Regardless, as shown, all discussion on the topic ended a week after the incident with no declaration of a decision or any action taken.
Until 25 Sept:
In all honesty, I gave a bad reply, one I didn’t really believe in to a question I was tired of answering. I was headed to bed after a long day, and either should not have replied, or asked for clarification and to wait; I was under the impression that the call to ban was because of recent inflammations, and not because of something from a month ago. I’ve been wondering this past week whether all this could have been avoided if I had not been as flippant.
After that, we talked about other things, during which I realized I didn’t know the reason for the ban, asked the question, and went to sleep. I expected, in any case, for the ban to follow guidelines and everything would be sorted out as usual. Blac apparently implemented the ban and mentioned straight-up that the ban was until 2021, which I read as 2020: I understood that as the beginning of 2020, or three months, which was out of order from what should have come next in the Hierarchy (two weeks), but was nonetheless one of the steps and I thought little of it, assuming I’d be able to have it amended.
What happens the next couple days next is a bit murky on my end, as I don’t have time-stamps on my logs. Blac answered me, but I didn’t see his reply due to work and moving into the new house until Lom contacted me about why he was gone. I asked again and got the answer that we have echoed at least 5 times now. Sometime during the evening I was discussing this with both the admins and Lom, and Lom showed me that the ban was for two years;
this threw me for a loop, but I didn’t ask about it until the next day.
Now to back up a minute. At the same time as my discussion with Lom, he was asking other people if they knew anything; I do not know the content of these conversations beyond what has been made public by others over the course of all this ruckus, and have not asked for them. Apparently,
Blac was contacted and asked about the ban, where he mentioned he was “looking into it,” slipping up and saying he
could remove the ban on the forum, when he could not (I can’t see the rest of the conversation, so don’t know if he corrected himself in this); if I remember correctly (I haven’t found the log yet), Blac did not have regular computer access at this time, and admins cannot access the control panel on mobile.
That is the end of what I know Blac mentioned to others. The reason given to us by Blac for these responses was because he was half asleep. Oookay then.
During this all, questions obviously arose about the ban: there was no reason or report given for it, the ban length was massive, and apparent answers from myself and Blac made it look like no one had any idea what was going on. To top it all off, Flo reappeared after having been notified by either Blac or Sal that Lom was gone, lending fuel to the idea that the entire reason for the ban was just to get Flo back.
Now having to provide damage control for the apparent mystery-ban, we discussed the ban, the response to it, and what statement should be made, during which Blac made known his explicit bias and annoyance at Lom being the reason the ban was put in so swiftly overnight without any preparation or explanation. The actual reason for the ban was, in spite of this, still as stated officially and repeatedly.
Hopefully this doesn’t get lost in the wall of text, but the explanation that admins were deliberating the ban wasn’t correct. It wasn’t a lie, either; normally admins do discuss whether the action hierarchy fits the infraction, and we never finished that discussion. We never had that discussion the second time, though, either; Blac states he had intended to reduce the ban duration, as I stated previously, but aside from him changing the ban duration again and letting others know, it never came up again. To my knowledge.
Back to the discussions of 27th. Flo came back on the 26th, and was immediately put back in as a mod, participating in the talk and quickly coming to the same conclusion that admin bias was the reason for the ban preceding any preparation for it. We talked about the reasons for the ban, and what explanation should be given, where Flo and I both said “the truth in its entirety.” (Okay, my words, but also his sentiment.)
What followed was an explanation from Ikarius, the only admin online at the time who 1) had the time or was around to write the explanation, and 2) was there and aware of everything since the initial question of banning Lom on the 25th. The explanation itself was the truth, unfortunately it was not “the truth in its entirety” due to...reasons? I don’t even know. This explanation was shown to admins to review before it was posted, but I was not able to review it until much later.
From there is pretty much common history. Because the initial explanation did not provide the entire truth
as I said to do, there appeared holes in it that already suspicious members seized upon as evidence of dishonest admins making hasty excuses to cover for a “swap Lom for Flo” gambit; the apparent biases expressed in Ikarius’s subsequent
impassioned responses only further cemented the idea of an admin team that simply wanted Lom gone, but was
just too inept.
Which kind of hurts
my feelings, you know? If I wanted you gone so badly as to abandon all ethics and just blast you out of here, I’m a bit more aware than to invent a reason that’s a month old and draw suspicion to myself by not having the explanation set and ready. It’d be planned and proofed; y’all got
no frickin’ idea the scenarios I think up while watching dirt go in and out of holes.
And still no one could provide an adequate response, just the same answers repeated again, because no one had the answers.
From there misconceptions grew. Hahk popped in and tried to gather info to give a better response, but got dragged away, resulting in people sitting for weeks without any explanation, leading to ideas of the
entire world admin team being a bunch of liars who were all in on the plot; his eventual response even then still didn’t have all the facts that we have now (and we are still likely missing several facts, given a lack of some testimony).
I became frustrated with people mouthing off and blowing up in chat about people being busy with life - true enough on my end with 50-60 hour work weeks and moving out of and into the house. Still annoyed at the swiftness with which people I’ve known for 7+ years coming to the idea of “you all are evil assholes,” and having words I never said shoved in my mouth, I pissed off Nents. I’d hoped to write the full explanation of events myself
weeks ago; it never happened until now.
I’m sure I could go into more details about many other events surrounding everything, or double and triple check that I didn’t mix something up, but I have devoted enough hours of time I don’t have to researching the logs for this essay, and it is getting long enough.
"What don't/didn’t you agree with?"
First was the timing. I told Lom as such when we talked together and spoke to this effect on the 27th with the other admins, that waiting such a long time makes the ban seem arbitrary, and when events seem arbitrary, people get angry.
The second was the duration. Philosophical questions aside, 2 years is an overreach for a bad word not spoken about someone, not spoken to someone, but shouted into the aether to make a set of 1's and 0's fumble with the great crime of having been witnessed of it; if he had been openly hostile to anyone in that way, you know, sure, I could justify a "go directly to jail" card like that. He wasn't.
Even after the duration was reduced to one month, I still feel it too long for the reason given. It is, however, the length that was settled upon. I have spoken with Lom on this subject too, and he has done well to sit it out patiently.
Third, not coming out with the entire truth
like I explicitly advised. Damn trying to save face; the
worst possible thing to do after a silent ban is to lie, and withholding information that honestly was
not sensitive to anything over than egos is a close second. And then to get defensive when people start noticing the holes where the rest of the truth should have been?
Four, executing a ban, and especially a semi-permanent one, without being
fully ready to explain it; if we waited a month, then what would be one or two more days, when someone would be ready to do this properly? (I’m being rhetorical,
I know the answer.) And then not even explaining it. “Oh no one has him on discord” isn’t an excuse to have absolutely no contact when we have goddamn forum PMs.
Fifth, the "Hollywood" comment and "the party that rapes women" comment
are the same event, and were never deemed actionable and, with a mild bit of critical reading, never said or implied what it's said to have said or implied. In my opinion, I suppose. But that's a bit of a nit to pick compared to everything else.
Last is the implication of Lom as an unabashed, unredeemable, evilly evil bigot. I fully agree that when he gets abrasive and defensive, he most
certainly lashes out with statements that can easily be taken as this or that kind of bigotry. It's indefensible, and I stopped defending it; I don't find him these things, but the fact that people do suggests a clear problem of perception, at the very least.
Who knows, if
everyone would stop pretending like they're shouting at bots and considered that every username on here is a goddamn
person that they've spent 7 years with, we might not have these kinds of problems from anyone. It's fun and cathartic to call bullshit at people in the moment, but it really just makes more messes than it's worth.
I would know. So yeah. That's about it.
The Aftermath
Flo is gone, but this was foreseeable.
Blac is no longer an admin; he resigned of his own accord, but I imagine that he would have been asked to do so or removed by now, regardless, for attempting a semi-permanent ban of one member he did not like to regain a member he did. Even if Lom was somehow literally Hitler in disguise, it is extremely poor judgment and a misuse of power to throw down bans in this way.
And then there’s the excuses given. I can’t be in Blac’s mind and really can only take him at his word that somehow being extremely tired played a role in him giving false statements when asked about the ban. None of it looked good and he accepted leaving the admin team, but then was further run out of town by Nents who was angry that it very much looks at the outset that he was blatantly lied to.
Poor Hahk. You did your best.
And now we have the silly situation where no one could come forth with the
entire truth, and a mass of people threw out 7+ years of friendship with malicious assumptions and pissy retorts.
So there you go.